Vagina monologue (RMX)

Very often we read about the science of vaginas (in Rwanda at least) because it becomes a little more acceptable to talk about vaginas in that context. Here is a more social analysis.

“Women have vaginas that can speak to each other…” [Dominique Christina: The Period Poem]

I love the Vagina Monologues- its like one of my favorite plays ever since I came across it my first year of college. So here is a blog, or should I say a remix of it.

It is funny how we will jump over moons and suns just so we can escape from saying the term vagina. We got so many nicknames for it, pussy, punani (thanks to Janet Jackson in Poetic Justice), poompoom and va-g-g (is that how they even spell it). I got nothing against these alternative words, in fact, I love the creativity people put in it. However, it bothers me when the use of these alternative words has underlying meanings.

Until this day I am just confused about why people always feel the need to bash other persons if they choose to use the term vagina instead of all the other options. I remember sometime back I wrote an article “Growing up with XX chromosomes” and I chose to use vagina. A friend shared the article and on one of the comments someone had said I should stop using vulgar words like vagina. YO SINCE WHEN IS VAGINA A VULGAR WORD? I paid attention in English class and this never came up. How did an agreed term referring to a body part become vulgar?

This other time, someone said I should stop using disgusting words like vagina. So let me get this straight, the word vagina makes the vagina disgusting but calling it pussy makes it tasty? We (I use this loosely) are so bothered with the word Vagina, we want to make it something its not. Creating unattainable expectations of how vaginas should smell like mangos, pineapples and strawberries, is toxic and dangerous for young girls. Vaginas are vaginas and should taste and smell like vaginas because they are vaginas.

I am honestly tired, tired of people who unconsciously force others to have substitute words for the vagina for their convenience. It is a vagina whether or not you call it one- calling it cake, spinach or fries does not change the fact that it is a vagina. Not to mention how I dislike the synonymous nature of the words “pussy” and “weak”. Then how come hardly has anyone ever flinched about saying penis? Textbooks are happily all covered with them- but we stutter or whisper when speaking of the VAGINA and some textbooks and teachers would rather not talk about it?

So what would happen if suddenly, magically, men could menstruate and women could not? Clearly, menstruation would become an enviable, worthy, masculine event: Men would brag about how long and how much. Young boys would talk about it as the envied beginning of manhood. Gifts, religious ceremonies, family dinners, and stag parties would mark the day.“- Gloria Steinem [If Men Could Menstruate]

So I guess the argument is if men had vaginas, by social construct, vaginas would become acceptable and we would feel much more comfortable saying vagina. Maybe we would even celebrate the vagina (it would be lit).

But here is the deal:

1. If you cannot handle saying and/or others saying vagina, you definitely cannot pop ANY pussy.

2. When society instills in us[especially young womxn and girls] that the word vagina is unacceptable, imagine how [we] grow up- thinking their bodies contain/ are a taboo, that they are dirty, disgusting and something of theirs cannot be talked about. They become blind to the power, beauty and strength in their bodies as a result. This language tears them down. Someone may say its just slang- just language [“you’re overthinking it”] but if you think about it our language/ vocabulary is a reflection of our society’s beliefs and expectations- through language we maintain certain systems of inequality and/or oppression.

3. If someone wants to call the vagina, a vagina let them do so. If you find yourself (man or womxn) feeling uneasy about it, I suggest you look into why and unlearn whatever has been taught to you. To start you off, here is a great exercise. Please read through.

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Enjoy your day. Meditate on the word Vagina!

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