i am Black until i am thriving and suddenly i am a Womxn of Color.

Its been a while since I have written something so... Happy new year! I feel like its really upsetting, sad actually- that I am going to start a whole blog post about a feminist issue that’s going to seem- for many- like yet another division within the movement. However, we gotta do what we gotta …

The Violence of Compulsory Heterosexuality: A Review of Inxeba

“What do you see in him? Do you think he cares about you? Do you think he thinks about you? You want me to be a man and stand up for myself but you can’t do it yourself. Aren’t you tired? Pretending to be something you’re not” Kwanda to Xolani I first learned about "Inxeba" …

UMUCO: Critiquing culture and breaking stigmas

  Being born and raised in Rwanda succumbed us to certain traditions and morals that govern our community. Many call it culture, we call it UMUCO. I believe and argue that the biggest weapon against [neo]-colonialism is knowledge and practice of one’s indigenous culture. Thus, I have devoted my life to Afrikan narratives, and to …

The privilege in learning an oppressed group’s native tongue

What is the point of learning a dying language? It creates dependency and furthers the white savior mentality.

Afrikan Parenting: Addressing the Lack of Emotional Support

Ideally to have children, you have to have a house, a good paying job, a good car, enough money- basically to be financially stable. This may seem like, "Of course it is a "good" thing to think about before having children" but are there more factors to successfully raising children that we rarely pay much attention …

What the pastor had to say about my abusive relationship.

It is a story about the lives of each prior to, during and after their relationships with each other. The women are victims of domestic violence and both seek help from the church.

Vagina monologue (RMX)

Very often we read about the science of vaginas (in Rwanda at least) because it becomes a little more acceptable to talk about vaginas in that context. Here is a more social analysis. "Women have vaginas that can speak to each other..." [Dominique Christina: The Period Poem] I love the Vagina Monologues- its like one …

My journey with body positivity and self love

When I was younger, from what the pictures show, I was that cute chubby baby. Not even bragging I was adorable. I grew to be a chubby child too. I had big legs, big cheeks, flabby stomach and arms, and big thighs. Big everything! Of course, this did not bother me when I was young. I liked …

The Power and Significance of Afrikan Goddesses

I think if you read my blogs by now you know I am all things Afrika! So… Story time! This past semester I took a course called “Feminist theory” and you can imagine we talked about a lot of depressing things covered in equality and oppression. I had decided that I was going to have positive vibes …

The entertainment industry as a tool of empowerment: a closer look at the Miss Rwanda competition

I have stayed away from discussing this topic, however, over the Winter I found myself engaging in various conversations with numerous Rwandan diaspora and them expressing their opinions and frustrations with the Miss Rwanda contest. Plus, the competition is like on going and its about to be booming. Before I continue, I want to remind everyone …